That handbag

I used to find it kinda cute when a guy carries his mami's handbag for her.Until today!

As I was walking in the CBD I noticed a couple;they were holding hands- almost cuddling while walking.(Got me wondering was it  mapenzi moto moto or just the cold eating on them).Anyway they seemed happy.That's all that matters in this weather I guess..But!The dude was carrying a handbag.My eyes quickly shifted to check the mami's side to find out if she too was carrying a handbag.She wasn't.Relief.The handbag on the guy's side was obviously hers.
Then it hit me..thass just wrong.Only occasion a dude should be carrying a handbag is if his mami has broken one of her heels.Ladies,you know those days when you're working your heels then one breaks and one of your legs is rendered shorter than the other?Your cat walk is interrupted and your face goes super red because your new walking style is clownish?That's the only time he should carry your handbag.And hold your hand too.Lovingly.So that you gain confidence and become totally oblivious of the stares from passer bys.
He cannot carry your bag if you are in perfect shape because>>your tampons are in that bag,your mascara,your eye liner, your nail polish,your lip gloss,your sandals,your just in case top,your extra bottoms,your extra thong,the extra braids you did not use after your last salon visit,those may be in there too.Would you imagine if that bag fell from his hands and your essentials spilled on the ground?How would the world  view your ninja from then on?That is why ladies..your man cannot carry your handbag for you!


Onto serious  matters though.
Death!Among the certainties of this world,death is one of them.Unless, you know, you pull an Elijah or Enoch.Straight to heaven nini nini!We are all going to end up six feet under.
In all it's certainty,we still cannot be sure when our day to die is.We are restricted of that knowledge.So we prefer to live each day with the mentality that we shall live forever.We do not like to dwell on the thought that we shall die some day.Reason?It is a scary thought.A scary knowledge.
When we lose a loved one on the other hand,it breaks our hearts.More so when it is a person we were attached to,a person we interacted with at a personal level.It may be a person that was a source of strength for you,some one who inspired you.It could be the love of your life,your child, a parent,a sibling.Whoever it is,as long as you had an attachment to them,their death leaves you with a feeling of emptiness.
A normal reaction on the knowledge of a loved one's demise may be anger.Anger towards God, anger towards that person.Sometimes you fall into denial in massive proportions.Your brain refuses to process that loss.
So there is the loss of one loved one..then there is the loss of a second loved one.Instances when you lose two people  at different stages of life.People that mean so much to you.At this point you start to question God's motives.And you could go all hysteria on Him!Really God?Really?You had to take another one again.Why me?Why us?Why here?You may question.
I have come to learn that nothing comes to God as a surprise.He foresees, predestines.
I have lost two significant men in my life.My father-when I was aged 7.And the father to my son-two years ago.
Both painful experiences.Perhaps at the age of 7 I did not understand the full implications of death.I however have come to understand that the loss of one parent comes with a lot of favor from God.I have come to see the Heavenly Father stand in for my family  and I over the years through situations that even an earthly father could not have carried us through.I have seen the love,grace and provision of God in significant proportions.A special favor is what I have come to label all of it.
As for my youngster,I cannot wait to see that special favor befall him even as he grows without the presence of his biological Father.And I walk in the belief and the confession that he will turn out just fine!
Therefore even in the darkness that is death,there is that light that illuminates still.A sense of hope.The hope does not come immediately after the loss but with time.Because time is a healer.